Why we dance around the money situation at hand

Doing the dance, you know dancing around rhe subject at hand

“Why do we dance?” “Because an unexamined life is not worth living.” This was a quote from a movie my wife was watching this morning. It was one of those chick flick movies on the Lifetime Channel. I found this question quite intriguing as I passed by in the living room. It stopped me in my tracks and made me just think about life in general.

What a statement that was. An unexamined life isn’t worth living. What was the actor stating? Really he was emphasizing a deep rooted human feeling and curiosity, to satisfy your desires, explore new reaches of your inner self. In this case a dancer was the focused intent. As it was tsated with the opening question.

Avoiding the issue at hand

You can look at this in another perspective, why do we dance around the subject of finance, financial stabilization, security, why because it’s uncomfortable for the masses. Many people are challenged and distraught about their current state of affairs. Constantly complaining about their situation at hand,yet instead of doing the right thing people just keep doing the same things that put them in a tight spot, in the first place.

You know who they are, maybe you’re one of the many who are struggling to make ends meat. You go to work daily and give it your best and still at then of the day you have more month than money. Life in itself seems meaningless, “why am I working so hard, for what”; you ask? Then the thought passes and you just keep pushing along hoping for things in life to improve and get better.

the Break Up

I talked about it the other day, when I had mentioned about hitting bottom, the day my wife told me to pack my bags. It was a real eye opener. There I was sitting on my buddies couch numb from what had just happened. I had a long talk with my good friend and then as the evening came to a close, and I was in the dark left wondering what had happened, knowing full well what I had to do. I sat there paralyzed.

Watching the dark emptiness fill my heart, that empty feeling way down inside that can undeniably take you to the darkest parts of your soul. Most people stay far away from these places, the fear and pain of doing a little self analysis, reflection in depth research into why is my life going this way.

holding on by a thread praying you will survive

It’s hilarious that it takes the majority of humans to hit a place where they’re stuck between a rock and a hard place before they realize they are holding on by a thread, watching their lives spiral out of control. I’ve seen this place a few times in my life and normally I shrugged it off, and kept plowing through the daily grind, making my way to where ever it was going.

Appearing that everything was just fine and that I’d always be okay. Usually this is how my life turned out. I always managed to land on my feet. Picking up without missing a beat. That was until tragedy struck when my Mother had passed, then the spiral downward with devastating blow after devastating blow, took my wife and I through the most stressful twists and turns, crazy life threatening situations and circumstances, and left us at a breaking point after enough of the setbacks and heartaches of defeat and failure stressed us. I have to say I was the breaking factor in the entire equation.

I bring this to the relevant subject of dance because we all dance around the fire once in a while but when it’s too darn hot in the kitchen you need to lower the heat or stay out of it. The unexplored side of entrepreneurship I embarked on took us through some pretty advanced dance moves to keep us on our toes was a trying task to say the least.

While she was away I had some amazing moments of discovery, awesome discussions that took my life again in new directions and explorations of my inner and outer self. Seeing people around me all fall victim of the poor decisions made with taking money for granted, abusing the freedom of having an instant gratification type of mindset and an uncaring thought towards the future.

This isn’t a bad or terrible way to live, although it is reckless and careless to go through life without putting up boundaries, limits and rules that are used to measure, guide and protect us from harm and minor setbacks. I remember when I had to look at finding work to supplement my income, so that I had an emergency parachute if I needed to jump ship.

My wife too had to go through the same process, on top of that she received very disheartening news about her overall health and wellness. It was at this point we both realized what we wanted from a relationship and it was everything we already had and so much more. We had also realized that we both needed to be stable and financially stable so we could realize all of our dreams.

We had to learn all of the basics because we ignored all of the warning signs, we lived with danger and desperation daily. Our greatest fears were coming true. There she was in another town, living with friends and I was in my own independent element as well. We had to set up goals, make commitments to change those things that were not balanced and shred all of the negative habits, influences, people and circumstances from our lives.

We had to regain our vision of our goals, chart new courses so we could get back together and back on track to our future. There were no choices, either do or die. We knew everything would always work out, but this time was different, we knew we had to work things out it was a matter of many lives involved. Risking everything on a pipe dream wasn’t going to be an option, not that a pipe dream was the dream at all, but pie in the sky dreams are just that.

If you have big goals and desires you need gigantic actions, and measurable results quickly. You have to take a deeper inventory of what really needs to go on. The advice of others will tell you who is authentic and qualified to remain a trusted friend. Let me tell you when all chips are down and life seems to have no purpose the allies you meet are incredible and will carry you down to the finish line. Running right along side you cheering you in all of the way.

We encourage you to dance the test of time, live a life of experience and joy, stop limiting yourself to the same old, same old routine. If you are faced with trouble financially whether it’s your home mortgage, job loss, buried in unsecured debt, faced with an impending bankruptcy or foreclosure you have to know that it’s just as much of a gift as it is a nightmare. The lessons you learn from experience will make you humble and eliminate your stubbornness or you will meet defeat and pick up the pieces and learn from your mistakes.

Reduced stress

Either way you deserve a partner to dance with, first you have to be willing and coachable if you want to learn. You must recognize a need to solve your stress, reduce your financial strain and relieve the pain of being so challenged, this can be physically or mentally in pain. Most people will never know what humiliation, suffering and sorrow life can create, unless they have lost everything.

We mourn when a close relative or friend passes. We feel saddened when we lose valuables in our life and we loose our sanity when our finances spiral out of control. Personally my wife and I have lost close family, friends, personal possessions and even our selves with all we have faced.

 Most people would stop right there and many do. We have seen both sides of losing everything, those who just give up and become those passing faces in a crowd and those who fight to regain control of what has been lost. We have met some of the most humble and caring people over my travels of the night, made some really awesome friends too. Our attraction of the right people into our has been off the charts in terms of the friends, mentors, and partnerships that have been created.

Now it’s our turn to give it all back too you. We want you to shred the dead weight and regain control of your life, taking you back to a time when life seemed so much simpler. Imagine no more cloudy days of confusion, stress and overwhelmed feelings of fear and panic. Lowered anxiety levels because you chose to take action today instead of waiting for the wound to become a hazardous infection in your life.

Having control over your financial affairs, your personal relations, proving to your self that all of that silliness was just one of life’s little tests to keep you aware of whats real and what isn’t. You’ve heard of the Paredo Principle, you know the 80/20 rule. Where 20% of your actions are earning you 80% of the outcomes. So in reflection of the principle here Teri Lynn and I want to be that 20% for you.

We want to be the 80% of your positive outcome with transition and positive change, we want you to succeed in everything you set out to do that brings you into alignment with your passions and purpose in life. As always we strive to provide you with tips tools and resources to help you stay on top of your money.

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